This post is for everyone who has a DAYJOB and is also trying to forge a writing career.
This is probably how your mind feels most of the time.
I promise you this is not my culinary disaster (and although my friend posted it on social media, she probably didn’t expect it to be used on my blog!) – this is what happens if you don’t prick potatoes before cooking them.
Today the stress in my head (at the day job, from the day job, from thinking about the writing life I would rather lead, in trying to imagine the evening before it was even lunchtime!) built up to this explosive point… I felt like these potatoes…
If you have ever felt the same read on.
Even these beautiful roses have sharp bits.
No-one can have a perfect life, there are always sharp bits! I know a good few people lucky enough to be full time writers, they no longer have to balance that life with a dayjob, and even they still have sharp bits.
Remember living the life you dream of doesn’t mean you will lead a stress free, smooth edged life.
Dream, of course, but keep your head somewhere in reality.
Learn your triggers and have a mental list of how to get over the stress once you have made it home. Any way you can relax and let go of it is good. Here is a list of things that work for me;
- Reading a book
- Having a lie down/power nap
- Taking a bath
- Working out (I rarely do this in the face of confronting my stress – but it always works when I do)
- Rage it out in a free write
- Phone a friend and have a bit of a moan
- Chill out with a magazine and a cuppa
- Watch a film
- Go for a walk
And remember why you are in this dual/ split life place to begin with.
Another idea is to visualise (and manifest) sometime in 2013 I created this board of dreams, actually a board of what I wanted my life to be – not dreams but reality! Some of these aspects are already coming true, it serves as a visual reminder….
Almost central are the words THE SMARTEST DECISION I EVER MADE…
giving up my full time career after 14 years and with it the salary and the pension is okay, it is just that, the SMARTEST and BRAVEST decision I have ever made. And no matter how bad my day has been by 5pm or 6pm at the latest, IT — IS — OVER! Whereas before there was barely time to grab dinner before working away for another 5 or 6 hours. That 60-80 hour relentless working week is not sustainable – it is why so many teachers took strike action yesterday.
Finding time to write can be a challenge, if you do find time keeping energy up can be hard, but how worth it – think about how writing makes you feel. Better than most things in the world? Then keep going!
Try to hold onto the good days and let go of the bad – in the same way we let go of rejections and celebrate our publishing successes!
Just keep going!